These days it’s easy to identify the female members of Generation Y. They’re the ones wearing the stupid trucker hats, the equally as lame oversize diva shades, and sporting the tramp stamp while declaring themselves bi-sexual. That’s right, girls-on-girls gone wild. But how many of these girls really are bisexual and how many of them are simply striking the trendy pose?
Speaking of striking a pose, perhaps the recent rush of “bisexual chic” was ushered in when the Queen of Posers, Madonna, traded saliva with Britney Spears at the 2003 MTV Music Video Awards. It was as if, overnight, “bisexuality” was let out of the closet, making it acceptable for young girls everywhere to experiment with the equation (i.e., if Britney’s doing it, with Madonna, then it must be cool). It wasn’t like they all rushed right out and started swapping spit with their nearest gal pal. They were, however, quick to slap the label on them themselves on their myspace pages, lest they be called squares by the pack.
Jumping on the bi-bandwagon seems to be particularly prevalent at teenage and college parties, once the girls are properly liquored and X’d up. That’s when the dance-floor kissing starts, often egged on by the boys in tribal sports-mode: “Tongue! Tongue! Tongue!”
“I liked the attention,” says a 17-year-old girl from Florida, who has had a boyfriend for two years and sometimes does it in front of him. “He likes it. It’s fun.”
That’s just what the Baby Boomers were saying about the hula hoop.
But what happens to boyfriend and girlfriend if girlfriend becomes attached to another girl and it lasts for more than just the innocent smooch? The “fun” probably disappears pretty quickly. Although, this fad doesn’t seem to be rooted in the attachment to the same sex. It seems to be about trial, and, in many instances, error – kids lost in transition (read: confusion) between adolescence and adulthood. Think of it more as your typical teen and young-adult rite of passage: escaping from parental boundaries. In previous generations, young girls may have rebelled by being promiscuous. Today, they’re kissing other girls.
Yet, there are young women who use the experiment of “bi” to transition to the real thing: full on lesbo. It’s safer for them to declare their bisexuality, because if someone calls them out, for being a lesbian, they can just tell them to stuff it, they were just playing around, like everyone is doing. Well, everyone except the boys, because it is just not as culturally accepted, or encouraged (thankfully!)
But if a young woman does travel down the path of bi-ism and arrive at gay, what might her reasons be for switching teams? “I think emotional attachment is a good factor,” says a hot 21-year-old college student from UC Santa Barbara, who calls herself gay. “Because girls are more understanding of each other.”
Think about it. When a young woman leaves home – for the first time in her life – to go to college, there’s a void in the emotional nurturing she was hopefully receiving from mom and dad. How is she going to compensate for that? With a college boy who is going through his own trials and tribulations, and stupid frat games, and surely can’t be counted on to cuddle for more than the time it takes to flip the remote to Sportscenter? Or with a young woman who, maybe, understands where she is coming from emotionally?
Fact: Men simply aren’t as sensitive as women would like us to be. And it’s not only in the “feeling” department. “Women know how to please each other,” says the UC Santa Barbara student, talking about why she likes sex with women. “We know what works for us, so we use what we know to please each other.”
Dudes would be wise to view their next girl-on-girl porn scene, not with an eye for simply getting off but, with an eye for learning a few stimulating moves. True, we do possess the c*ck, but obviously sex isn’t all about letting it loose and watching it crow. It’s about finesse, and, hate to say: caring. That’s why many women probably turn away from our “same old song and dance.” And when they’re smoking hot, and young, that’s a blow to us all.
But, many will say, a preference for the same sex isn’t natural. Yet who knows what’s natural and what isn’t? Who’s to say that we’re not biologically predisposed to being bi, or gay, or trannie or even Little Richard. FYI: Among birds, 10 to 15 percent of female western gulls are homosexual. Among mammals, male and female dolphins frequently engage in homosexual activity, yes, in the wild, but also in captivity (try showing that at Sea World).
And, the bonobo population? (Apes closely related to humans.) Studies show that whether in the wild or captivity, nearly all are bisexual, and nearly half their sexual interactions are with the same sex.
Bonus track: the females have been observed to engage in gay activity almost hourly. Yup, Bonbos Gone Wild. Better order the DVD soon.
“Don’t worry about it, Harry, it happens to everyone.”